Love, Post Break-Up

A loaded subject?

When really fantastic dynamic "this is it" relationships come to an end, what does it all mean? Often, we believe it means we will not find such love again. We believe that whatever brand of love we just experienced is really, really rare. We believe that we are now alone. We believe we messed up and are being punished. We believe we will never be happy again. We believe we blew our one and only chance. We believe love like that can only come through that one person. Stuff like this?

Of course, beliefs matter because they create the experiences we will have. As I see it, the beliefs we have about anything and everything are like signing contracts for particular experiences so if this is you these days, are these beliefs you have? Others like them? And, most importantly, are you willing to sign up for those experiences? If not, what are your options?

First, it is not by accident that you are "alone" right now. This is an experience you created so that you might expand your awareness or, more simply, grow. There is at least one specific muscle for you to grow or develop, now that you are in this situation, that will get you to a more peaceful place. Learning to be independent? Learning to re-define "alone?" Learning acceptance? Think about it. Listen to your inspiration and find out because then you will have a "project," a reason for why you, as a spiritual being having a human experience, are in this particular place. And focus on your project will help to cut through those kinds of thoughts.

Next, review the beliefs you have about the circumstance you are in as above. Which one(s) do you actually ascribe to? Now, do they serve you? If not, use any of the ways you have learned to transmute old, non-serving beliefs into ones that serves you. (Byron Katie's "The Work" and EFT ("tapping") are two highly effective ways to do this.)

Also, use this time to reinforce your intention for relationship. Use all the good from the one that has ended and fold it in to how you want to experience relationship again. Add even more to it. This process will, of course, bring to the surface any and all of those non-serving beliefs you may have which, of course, is fantastic because you have to be able to see it before you can transmute it.

Clearly, beliefs matter in this particular circumstance. But I think the biggest one is the notion - included above - that love only comes through certain people. That simply is untrue. As spiritual beings having human experiences, Love is really all there is that is "real." The rest, of course, is created from fear. When we limit the ways in which The Universe can "deliver" love to us, we limit the ways The Universe can "deliver" love to us! When we remember that Love is all there really is, that it is everywhere, that we can experience it in infinite ways with myriad individuals, when we hold that belief and make sure our own vibration is a match for what we are wanting to experience again, well then it can't not happen.

And if we learn even just this from the one who got away, what have we really lost?